A Word on Self Control

Self control is the ability to mentally detach yourself from the present moment enough that you don’t do dumb crap you regret.

Sometimes I literally envision stepping outside my body, taking a good look at myself, and examining my raging emotions. I turn them over and over like a guys in his 20′s twists and turns a potential engagement ring.  “Hmmm, how odd” I think to myself, “I’m literally reacting physically to this. Heart rate is rising. Hands feel cold and clammy. Fight or flight instinct is taking over.”

Next, I attempt to talk myself off the ledge. “Okay Brett, how about you just take a deep breath right now? I wonder if you’ll remember this moment 5 years from now? Unlikely. Is it possible that you’re over-blowing this right now? Likely.  Alrighty pal, just take a deep breath, chill, and think of something happy.  Puppies are a good choice, think of puppies.”

Now at this point I don’t feel great but my world is no longer in a death spiral. I might even attempt a weak smile, laugh, and say something obvious like, “Well, this sucks.”

Usually, within 1-2 hours I think back on the moment and thank the gods I didn’t go where my emotions were trying to drag me.

4 thoughts on “A Word on Self Control

  1. Josh Tilford

    Brett, what a valuable practice. I see the positive results in your life. I definitely want to keep training my mind on this one. But dang, sometimes the moment screams, “You’re going to implode, quite literally, if you don’t give in!”

  2. Brett Post author

    @josh: Thanks man. Glad it was helpful.

    @Meagan: haha fair enough :) Thanks for chiming in!

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